Ever been a heartbreak kid? Ever rejected the oh-so-sweetest guy’s proposal and had a guilt overdose for the next two months? Well, if you’re a girl, this must have been/will be an unavoidable boo-boo for at least once in your life, and nope, there’s NOTHING gloss about feeling guilty every time his text pops up or your news feed is spammed with his name. So how do you jump back to normal? How do you avoid feeling that pang of guilt? Well, here are some tips for you, on killing the guilt and living the fabulous life.
1) Do NOT avoid him.
Girls, we know we have the tendency to avoid or ignore someone after an awkward situation with them [or the tendency to bring up the stupidest and most random things in conversation later, but that’s with another set of guys ;)]. So what do we do? Well, cut it out! We know you might feel really awkward about talking to him again, but never, ever avoid him, cos it’s just gonna put you in that vicious circle of guilt. Again. And again. And again.
2) Do NOT send him mixed signals.
Just because we told you not to avoid him doesn’t mean you have to wrap yourself around him all the time! Talk to him when he initiates conversation, throw in a hi or bye, and a text reply (my awesome subtle rhyming skills are in show here), but never go girlspam on him. Not cool. We all know the girl who rejects the guy. And ends up flirting with him anyway. So we’ll take it that you don’t want to be that girl.
3) Make it CLEAR.
Make it VERY CLEAR when you tell him why you’re not interested. A single, tiny slip of tongue and he might whirl down a world of endless possibility (just as we might twist around what a guy says to us). Tell him subtly and calmly, with a smile on your face, but clarity in your tone. You don’t want any confusion breaking out later on.
4) AVOID that awkward moment if he tries to hit on you again.
That super awkward moment when he goes mushy on you, on a phone call or a chat? Oops. We’ll have to avoid that. Whenever something love-y comes in, even at a10 mile radius of your chit chat, run for your life. Change topics immediately, or say you have to leave, but don’t be rude. By sheer misfortune if he does jump on you again with a romantic line, just say that you’re not interested and that he’s not your type (or vice-versa). Avoid clichés like ‘I’m not good enough for you’. Just tell him in a pleasant, straight forward manner that he’s not your type and that you don’t think it will work out.
5) Stop feeling GUILTY.
This might seem like a pointless tip, considering the whole article is on how to stop feeling guilty (le me straight face here). But hey, it’s a motivational tip. Why do you have to feel guilty? You did not force him to do anything, not liking someone is definitely not a sin and all girls do this on a regular basis. There is no reason for you to feel guilty about it at all. Plus, if you manage to develop a good friendship with him (a bit tricky but possible) you can even hook him up with an amazing chick. So go out there, enjoy the sunshine and woo some guys with a brilliant smile, because you got nothing to worry about, girls!
Article Courtesy: Namita Krishnamurthy
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