Crush sending you mixed signals? Love life beginning to have all the elements of a Bollywood saga? Sick of all the drama (or worse, the complete lack of it) ? Never fear! Best-selling author, entrepreneur and all-round hottie Durjoy Datta is here to answer your queries and dish a guy’s perspective on relationships.
I’m 13 years old and have the biggest crush on this boy in school. He’s two years older to me, so I don’t get to see him around much except during football practice after school (both of us are on the school team- him in the boys division and me in the girls). I asked one of my friends to tell him how I feel and whether he likes me back too and he said he’d think about it but it’s been a week and now he won’t even say hi to me and all his friends tease us. I’m not even sure I like him anymore. What do I do?
Dear Confused, you have the answer in the question itself. You’re “not sure if you even like him anymore.” Move on and have a crush on someone better! If you want to make it worse for him, have it on someone better than him. Maybe the cricket team captain, or the champion debater. In fact, have all your friends fawn over the new guy too. Guys – popular or unpopular – have big male egos and are very territorial about their girlfriends and crushes! The guy will come crawling back to you or even if he doesn’t, I am sure it will give him some sleepless nights.
I’m 19 years old and have been sort of dating this boy for 6 months. The problem is, he never wants to go on any actual dates. We text late at night and sometimes he comes picks me up from home and we sneak out. I like his company, he’s funny and a great kisser- we mess around a lot and laugh a lot too. I don’t really know his friends and he’s never met mine. His Facebook status still says “Single” and his profile pictures keep showing him posing with a lot of different girls (none of them me). He says he likes me a lot and would like to go all the way but I’m having second thoughts. I really want my first time to be special. And I also want to be in a relationship. I don’t know what this is. What IS it??
Is he playing me?
Oh, yes, he is playing you! This is no relationship and there is not one going to happen soon. You are what they popularly and crudely call the booty call! You’re too precious – I’m sure – to be sucked into something like that. Start ignoring the guy- I am positively certain that you’re better off without him. Trust me, he will vanish into the woodwork the minute you go ‘all the way’ with him! I’m pretty darn sure he will flaunt his ‘relationship’ with you to all his friends too. That’s why you never meet them. You’re his secret. Don’t be and move out. NOW.