That catches everyone’s attention, doesn’t it? From inquisitive children to older men and women, the topic of sex never gets old! Or the act, apparently. I was reading this book, The stranger beside me by Ann Rule. It was the very chilling account of Ted Bundy’s life. The notorious serial-killer raped and murdered countless number of women in many states across America. He was a necrophile too, finding pleasure in sodomizing and bludgeoning his victims to death. All his victims were very attractive women who were around 18-25 years. Two-three of them were children. The most disturbing part of all this was that he,Ted Bundy, was an extremely charismatic, young man, who studied law and psychology(!). To use the act of sex as a tool of violence scares me. The fact that men find this pleasurable, even more so. How do they find excitement seeing a helpless woman/child and attacking them ferociously for sexual gratification? Do they really get pleasure from the act or the feeling of power, terrorizing the innocent? Does varied pornography really play a role in the twisted minds of these psychopaths like how Ted Bundy stated, few hours before heading for the electric chair?
The next day, I watched Brokeback mountain. One of the most beautifully-made romantic dramas I have ever watched. I was always a little uncomfortable with homosexuality. I though it was bizarre for men to be romantically involved with other men and women with other women. But nevertheless, I never disrespected them. What they did in the privacy of their lives was their business. Who was I to judge? But after watching Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal, their incredible on-screen chemistry, play out the roles of their lives, I was highly impressed and mildly surprised. I did not find any of the intimate scenes ‘disturbing’ nor ‘disgusting’. In fact, I thought the bond they shared was as beautiful as the rest of the movie.
That’s when I realized sex isn’t just sex. It’s not sleazy, it’s not vulgar, it’s not perverse. It’s an art; it’s natural, a physical expression, and a strong emotional interpretation. It’s sad to see people look at sex as merely an animal instinct. Even some animals share life-long bonds with their mates. I wish people would see the beauty of making love (as corny as that sounds) rather than desire ‘casual sex’. Sexual starvation outweighs emotional starvation in today’s world! I don’t know how people can ‘connect’ physically if not emotionally. Sex maybe overrated, I wouldn’t know, but love isn’t and that I would.
Article by: Shruti Menon